A Compassionate Path to Eating Disorder Recovery

Eating disorders are complex. They are not just about food, weight, or appearance—they are deeply rooted in emotional pain and, often, a need for control or safety. Whether you or someone you love is struggling, know this: eating disorders are rarely simply about the food.

As a therapist who specializes in eating disorder treatment, I’ve had the privilege of walking beside clients through some of their most vulnerable moments. This work has shown me over and over again that recovery is not only real, but transformative. If you’re reading this and wondering whether healing is truly possible, I want you to know: it is.

Understanding Eating Disorders: More Than Meets the Eye

Eating disorders come in many forms and affect people across all ages, genders, body types, ethnicities, and backgrounds. They are not always visible from the outside. People of all body shapes and sizes can experience eating disorders.

Some of the most common eating disorders include:

• Anorexia Nervosa: Characterized by restriction of food intake, intense fear of gaining weight, and a distorted body image.

• Bulimia Nervosa: Involves cycles of binge eating followed by the compensatory behaviour of purging.

• Binge Eating Disorder (BED): Involves recurring episodes of consuming large quantities of food, often rapidly and to the point of discomfort, without compensatory behaviors.

• Avoidant/Restrictive Food Intake Disorder (ARFID): A pattern of eating disturbances often tied to sensory issues or fear of aversive consequences, not driven by body image concerns.

• Orthorexia (not yet officially recognized in the DSM): An unhealthy obsession with "clean" or "healthy" eating that can severely disrupt a person’s life.

While each disorder has unique traits, they all share a common thread: emotional distress expressed through food and the body.

Myths That Get in the Way of Healing

Eating disorders are surrounded by harmful myths that can delay treatment and deepen shame. Let’s dispel a few:

• “You don’t look like you have an eating disorder.” Eating disorders do not have a “look.” People of all sizes can experience eating disorders.

• “It’s just a phase.” Eating disorders are serious mental health conditions that require professional support and are not to be brushed off. They are the most fatal psychiatric illness.

• “If they would just eat, they’d be fine.” Recovery is not just about eating differently, it’s about healing psychologically as well.

• “They’re just doing it for attention.” There is immense shame that comes with an eating disorder and it is a mental illness that no one would willfully choose.

Letting go of these myths opens the door for empathy, intervention, and hope.

What Recovery Really Looks Like

Recovery from an eating disorder is not a straight line. It’s more like a winding path—filled with highs and lows, setbacks and breakthroughs. That’s not a sign of failure. It’s how real, meaningful change works.

Here’s what recovery may involve:

1. Reconnecting with the Body

Many people with eating disorders feel disconnected from their bodies—either ignoring hunger cues or feeling at war with their physical selves. In recovery, we begin to rebuild trust with the body: listening, responding, and caring for it rather than controlling or punishing it.

2. Addressing the Root Causes

Eating disorders often serve a function: numbing emotional pain, providing a sense of control, or coping with trauma, anxiety, or low self-worth. Therapy creates space to explore and heal these underlying issues.

3. Rewriting the Inner Dialogue

The inner critic in eating disorders can be relentless. Part of recovery is learning to challenge that voice and cultivate a new one- one rooted in compassion, curiosity, and self-acceptance.

4. Creating a Life Beyond the Disorder

As healing progresses, clients begin to rediscover who they are beyond the eating disorder - reconnecting with passions, relationships, values, and dreams that may have been buried or put on hold.

What Progress Looks Like (Even When It’s Hard to See)

Recovery looks different for everyone and progress can take many forms. Sometimes, it might look like one of these things:

• Eating in a social setting with friends despite feeling anxious

• Choosing rest instead of compulsive exercise

• Recognizing a trigger before acting on it

• Crying instead of restricting

• Feeling an emotion fully, without numbing

These moments are profound victories. They may seem small, but they are the building blocks of sustainable healing.

For Those Who Love Someone Struggling

If someone you care about is living with an eating disorder, you may feel confused, helpless, or scared. You don’t need to have all the answers but your support makes a difference.

Here’s what can help:

• Listen without judgment.

• Avoid comments about weight, food, or appearance. Take a neutral stance to all bodies and food.

• Educate yourself about eating disorders. Meet with an eating disorder therapist yourself to gain a deep understanding of this psychiatric illness.

• Encourage professional help

• Practice patience. Recovery takes time and there will be ups and downs

Taking the First Step

If you’re considering therapy- or just wondering if your relationship with food and body is something to look at- that curiosity is enough. The first step doesn’t have to be big. It might be a phone call. A journal entry. A conversation.

And if you’re further along in your healing, know that setbacks don’t erase progress. Every part of your story matters. Every part deserves care.

Final Thoughts: You Are worthy of recovery

Eating disorders often leave people feeling like the eating disorder is their safe place for finding their worth, validation and comfort.

Recovery is about coming home to yourself. It’s about learning that you are enough as you are- not because of your weight, your achievements, or your willpower- but simply because you exist. You are worthy.

If you or a loved one is navigating an eating disorder, I invite you to reach out. You don’t have to do it alone. Healing is possible, and you are deserving of it.

Let’s take that first step together.

To learn more about therapy for eating disorders or to schedule a virtual consultation, please contact me using the button below.

The Body Image Course is a wonderful self guided e-course to compliment therapy for people living with eating disorders and their support people. Through powerful video lessons, reflective journaling prompts, and unique guided meditations, you’ll explore the roots of body image struggles, uncover the toxic impact of diet culture, and learn practical tools to build body image resilience.

Occupational Therapists Apply Psychotherapy to Real Life

October is Occupational Therapy (OT) month! This blog post will cover the role of Occupational Therapists in mental health treatment and why they are the best person to have on your treatment team when seeking support for your mental health challenges. With our unique expertise in promoting independence, Occupational Therapists provide valuable insights and interventions to help you manage and overcome your mental health challenges. Occupational Therapists play a crucial role in supporting individuals with mental health conditions. Read on to learn more.

An OT brings something different to the table than standard therapist. OTs believe that healing comes from doing, so we are naturally drawn to concrete, actionable goals. Whether it be engaging in an activity you really used to enjoy again, or working up the courage to order a coffee. Our therapy is based in doing.
One of the primary goals of occupational therapy in mental health treatment is to enhance your ability to engage in meaningful activities and participate in daily life. By focusing on a person's occupations (the things you do every day), occupational therapists can address the physical, cognitive, emotional, and social dimensions of mental health conditions.

An Occupational Therapist will frame your treatment around how your problem is getting in the way of the things you want and/or need to do. The things you want and need to do could be anything, from the little tasks such as getting dressed in the morning, to the bigger tasks of having family over for a dinner party. 

Occupational Therapists are unique practitioners in that goals are set collaboratively with the client and they tend to be concrete and action oriented. Although action orientated goals may sound intimidating, like jumping off the deep end into something you are scared to do, the tasks are always scaled to be just the right challenge. Not too hard and not too easy. We focus on the building up small successes to attain the client’s larger goal. 
To begin the treatment process, Occupational Therapists conduct comprehensive assessments to understand the unique needs and abilities of each individual. These assessments may involve evaluating cognitive and executive functions, analyzing daily routines, and assessing social interaction skills within various contexts.

Based on the assessment findings, occupational therapists collaborate with you to develop personalized treatment plans. These plans may include a variety of interventions, such as:
1. Activity Analysis: Occupational therapists break down daily activities into smaller components to identify potential barriers and develop strategies to overcome them. By modifying activities or adapting the environment, you can build confidence, enhance your coping skills, and restore a sense of accomplishment. This may look like analyzing food related activities such as grocery shopping, meal planning, eating, cooking in order to help manage the anxiety surrounding them for someone with an eating disorder.
2. Skill Training: Occupational therapists provide guidance and support in developing new skills or relearning lost ones. This may involve focusing on self-care activities like dressing, grooming, or cooking, as well as leisure pursuits or work-related tasks. Through skill training, individuals can regain independence and improve their overall well-being. Regaining skills or learning new ones helps in the process of self discovery and exploring self outside of mental illness. An important part in the recovery process is engaging in meaningful activities. 
3. Coping Strategies: Occupational therapists teach you practical techniques to manage stress, anxiety, and other emotional challenges. These may include relaxation exercises, guided imagery, deep breathing techniques, and time management strategies. This could also involve learning cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), dialectical behavioural therapy (DBT) or other psychotherapy based tools. By equipping you with effective coping mechanisms, occupational therapists empower you to navigate your mental health journey more effectively.
4. Environmental Modifications: Occupational therapists assist you in creating supportive environments that foster positive mental health outcomes. This may involve rearranging living spaces or workstations to optimize functionality, promoting safety, and reducing potential triggers for anxiety or depression.
5. Social Skills Training: Occupational therapists facilitate social skills development teaching assertiveness skills, anger management skills, and boundary setting to name a few. By nurturing healthy relationships and enhancing communication skills, you can increase your social support network, which is vital for mental well-being.

Occupational Therapists in mental health treatment also collaborate closely with other healthcare professionals, such as psychologists, psychiatrists, and social workers, to ensure comprehensive care. This interdisciplinary approach fosters a holistic understanding of your mental health needs and enables a more integrated treatment plan.
Throughout the treatment process, Occupational Therapists regularly evaluate progress and adjust interventions as needed. By providing ongoing support, education, and empowerment, occupational therapists empower you to take an active role in your mental health recovery.
In summary, Occupational Therapists play a fundamental role in mental health treatment by using our expertise in enhancing the functional independence and overall well-being of individuals. Through a range of interventions, we help individuals overcome challenges related to daily activities, develop coping strategies, and create supportive environments, all with the aim of promoting positive mental health outcomes.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Dana Etherington OT Reg. (Ont.), Psychotherapist is the owner of Cedar Tree Therapy, a psychotherapy practice for young adults that is located in Whitby, Ontario.

Body Shame Keeps Us Anxious & Distracted

We aren’t born hating our bodies, however most of us can find something we don’t like about ours.  Toddlers don’t hate their chunky thighs or chubby cheeks. This critical eye in which we view our bodies is something we learn to do. We learn it through small moments. We hear our grandmother compliment our sister’s recent weight loss. Our friend makes a comment while the two of you are out for lunch about how she must order a salad to stick to her diet. In these moments, we are subtly receiving the message that our body needs to live up to the thin ideal, thinner is better, and we must be in constant pursuit to be shrinking our bodies in order to be accepted, or to be viewed as successful or worthy.

We see and hear this type of messaging constantly, more than we might even consciously realize. We start to internalize the message of “your body isn’t good enough” until we think it’s our own voice in our head. It’s not. It's the voice of the body shaming society that we live in. 

Body shame is the intense feeling that there is something wrong with our body the way it is. This can lead to the relentless pursuit to change it or hide it. Body shame causes us to shrink the full expression of ourselves and tells us that our bodies are wrong because we don’t look how we “should”. Body shame can cause isolation, and can cause us to be distrusting of others. We don’t want to get close to others because we are scared of being judged, assessed, evaluated or hurt.

Where Does My Body Shame Come From? 

Your grandmother that compliments other’s weight loss or your friend that talks about their diet, they are not the root cause of your body shame. They are a small part of a much larger picture of generational dieting and diet culture disguised as promoting health that we have absorbed and understood as rules and expectations for how we should look. They haven’t yet begun to challenge and think critically about the systems that contribute to body shame. 

What Can We Do About It? 

We can ditch external rules about food and exercise. When you are hungry, check in with yourself and not a calorie counting app. Move your body because it feels good and lifts your mood, not to close rings. We can let go of external expectations and turn towards internal cues and what feels good to you.

We can have body shame free friends and role models that live in their body without apology, that live with food freedom and don’t let body shame get in their the way. 

When others make comments that perpetuate body shaming, gently explain why it is harmful. We are the people that make up society, so if we would like to change the body shaming ways of society we have to start at the individual level. 

The problem is not your body, the problem is your thoughts about it and the societal messaging we have received that maintains those thoughts. Body shame and living in diet culture keeps you busy, anxious and distracted. Worrying about how you look is a distraction from discovering true self and living freely. If you’d like to explore who you would be and what your life would be like without diet culture and body shame, get in touch with Dana for a 1:1 session.

Author Bio 

Dana Etherington is an Occupational Therapist, Psychotherapist and owner of Cedar Tree Therapy in Whitby, Ontario. Cedar Tree Therapy specializes in treating teens and young adults with anxiety, perfectionism and body image issues. 

www.cedartreetherapy.com

IG: @cedartreetherapy